Few Good Men…

Mood: Ironic

Audience: Christians

In my circular wanderings as a lifelong bachelor (so far) I’m struck with the question of just what it is that women are looking for in men. Like…where do I fall short? I’m pretty sure I don’t fall into the wife-beater category. I’m currently a little on the first world poor end of the income spectrum (I’m not always poor. I’ve been pretty decently stocked before). So…what gives? (Aside from my other blog entry that basically says I’m not all that interested in the “stay in the States” kind of women–and I truly mean no ill by that (salty of a mood as I was in back when I wrote that one))

To answer that, I turned to the all-knowing, all-wise Internet. What are women looking for? Turns out these are among the most desired qualities:

He should be…

  • trustworthy (11)
  • someone who treats spouse well (12)
  • hard working and industrious (13, 17, 27)
  • resourceful (14)
  • provisionary (15, 27)
  • a self-starter; not sleeping in all morning (15)
  • entrepreneurial (16, 24)
  • gainfully employed (18)
  • well-provisioned, part of the team that pays the bills so the lights don’t get turned out (18, 20)
  • generous (20)
  • strong (17, 25)
  • dignified (25)
  • confident (25)
  • intelligent and wise (26)
  • respected and respectable (there’s a difference; 23, 28-29)
  • not shallow (30-31)

WOW! That’s a lot of pressure on a man, isn’t it?! Like what man can even live up to all that?!

But you know what? Instead of whining about it, we as men need to step up to that challenge. That’s the only way to attract a woman who is our equal (Proverbs 31).

[Edit: ~sigh~ Yes, yes. I’ve heard all the “well what about if’s.” This is all general stuff. Adjust for your situation and all that. OK? Good. Thanks]


Psalm 131

This morning’s psalm speaks of humility. The context in which this psalm was written isn’t given. We can safely observe, however, that David–himself a highly intelligent man–advocated simplicity and trust in the Lord.

We often will come into situations that seem to over tax us emotionally, intellectually, physically, etc. At some point it becomes necessary to stop investing so much energy in essentially beating a dead horse. It will only prove to be a “great matter”–something “too wonderful” for us. It’s in those moments that we must go before the Father and release those things to Him. Let Him work out the details of how to deliver you from “great matters.” We thus learn humility and trust.

Is there a “great matter” in your life overwhelming you? Do you feel like you have to deal with it on your own? Do you think that makes you stronger? Or is there a better strength in learning to do your best and let the Lord take up the matter when it becomes overwhelming? Can you learn to still and quiet your soul before the Lord? Can you come to the place where, just as a child is secure in the presence of their mother, ¬†you can feel secure in the presence of our God?

“Cast all your anxiety on him, because he cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7)